So WRONG, in more ways than one...

Why is it that men know exactly the WRONG thing to say in sensitive situations?

To bring you up-to-date on my little situation, I began hanging out with a guy who we will call Plan B. I met Plan B. at work but I didn't really pay much attention to him in the beginning. I didn't take the time to learn his name for the longest time, even though he flirted/teased me on a daily basis. Plan B. began to email me - it began with innocent flirting, which lead to full-fledged conversations, and finally finished with him approaching my desk one day with his phone number and an offer to hang out. This was at the time that I was ending things with Plan C. and feeling really sad so I went with it and gave Plan B. a call - we hung out that very weekend.

We were inseparable from that moment on. Hearing things like "You're never going to get rid of me" and "I can't believe you're my girl" wasn't uncommon and reading text messages such as "I'm all yours, I don't want anyone else" happened on a regular basis. Exactly one month later, I get the "I Don't Want a Relationship" speech. Confused, angry, heartbroken, amused, and shocked are just some of the words that can be used to describe the way I felt.

Two and a half months and a few other boy-toys now separate us from that day. However, I see Plan B. EVERY DAY. We still even CAR POOL to work. He wants us to be FRIENDS. On some days, I am happy to be friends, on other days, while fighting the urge to pull every strand of hair from my head and punch Plan B. square in the nose, I think to myself "We have so much fun together. Why can't he see how good we are together? Why did he do this to me?" I am obviously not over him. So I distanced myself from him. His reaction: "Are you mad at me?", "Is everything okay?", and my personal favorite, "Did I do something wrong?" If that's not an invitation for me to voice my exact feelings to him, than I'm a 6-foot, 120-pound Swedish swimsuit model (and if that were the case, would I be having this problem right now?).

So I send him a kindly-worded email asking for honesty and forthrightness about our situation. In other words I tell him if he doesn't want me to be angry, he has to give me a better excuse than "I don't want to be in a relationship right now." This is his response (and I quote):

"You didn't do anything wrong...I just think that it was bad timing....I dont know...I really have no explination....I never ment to hurt you or make you feel bad....I think I got scared or whatever and just backed off....thats the only thing I can say....I really have no explination...."

Wow. Not only does he not have an explanation, but he can't even spell it. The whole not-being-able-to-handle-a-relationship thing is making a little more sense now.